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Did you know

that even if you fly home

return to your old job

fall into old relationships

and live out the old patterns that you thought you unlearned

you can never go back.

 

Ever.

 

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You can never go back.

You can never go back.

Seriously… you can never go back.

Even if you tried.

 

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But I know it can feel like you already have.

I know that feeling well.

 

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That feeling that the new you

that you worked so hard to become

has somehow returned to the old you

that you worked so hard to unlearn.

 

It’s terrifying.

 

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I have felt that fear so many times over the years when I’ve gone back to the USA after traveling.

 

When I have a harder time feeling relaxed.

When I have a harder time feeling joyful.

When I have a harder time feeling free.

When I have a harder time doing the things that I know make me feel good.

 

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I get into my patterns of overworking and stressing, feeling disconnected from nature and my body, and falling into family dramas.

 

And every time I ask myself…

“Am I really the person I thought I was?”

“When can I run away again?”

“Did I actually grow at all?”

 

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Then there are the times when that fear follows me out on the road. I feel trapped despite my physical freedom. It startles me and confuses me to the core.

 

When I arrive somewhere and I don’t instantly feel the magic.

When everyone I meet feels distant and shallow.

When my soul aches to feel alive and all I feel is antsy.

When I wonder, “What the fuck am I doing here??!”

 

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It makes me fantasize about Costa Rica, or the last place I loved, or a better beach, or a town with yoga. It can even leave me longing for my family and my birth home.

 

And every time I ask myself…

“Am I really this traveler that I thought I was?”

“Do I even want to do this anymore?”

“Did I actually grow at all?”

 

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The worst is when the fear meets me in Costa Rica. When the “old” me who I thought I destroyed creeps in again… in the place I love most of all.

 

When I get bored of laying on the beach for hours.

When I feel frustrated that I can’t get anything done.

When it rains for days and I feel isolated and alone.

When I lose discipline in my yoga practice or I get sucked into small town drama or I return to unhealthy patterns with men.

 

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I start to panic that every high was just an illusion. I start to worry that I’m forever stuck in my sadness. I want to move to fix it, but I know there’s nowhere left for me to go.

 

And every time I ask myself…

“Will I ever be satisfied ANYWHERE?”

“How can I get back to being the happy me?”

“Did I actually grow at all?”

 

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But then I remember…

My awareness of my old patterns is evidence that I am different than I was before.

My awareness that I want something greater is evidence that I am different than I was before.

My awareness is evidence that I am growing. No matter how I’m acting and no matter where I am.

 

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I know how it feels to see yourself blossom in ways you never knew possible…

and then watch yourself wither.

 

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I know how it feels to soar into aliveness…

and then become dull and detached.

 

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I know how it feels to be happier, clearer, more empowered, more authentic, more driven, more aware, more purposeful, than you ever knew you could be…

and then wonder if you can ever get back there again.

 

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And the sobering truth is… you can’t.

 

Just like you will never go back to being the person you may be so afraid of re-becoming, you will also never go back to being the person who you idealized in a moment from your past.

 

Because all that you are is who you are right now.

 

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Who you are now is more than who you were when you worked at a desk job or when you took an adventure of a lifetime or when you felt trapped at home or when you had absolute freedom on the road. Who you are now is more than who you were when you were consumed with anxiety or when you felt perfectly content. Who you are now is more than who you were on that long bus ride, in that beautiful relationship, watching that epic sunset, taking that transformative retreat, and crying on the plane ride home.

 

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Who you are now is the wholeness that survived all of that.

Who you are now is the potential to evolve into something greater than all of that.

Because you have become and unbecome every moment of all of that.

 

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In the highest highs and the lowest lows

in your best expression of love and your worst explosion of fear

your continuous transformation is happening right how

whether you recognize it or not.

 

That is the purpose of life.

 

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Our purpose is not to remain in the spaces where we feel best or most comfortable. Our purpose is to grow. Our purpose is to endlessly expand into the greatness of our unlimited potential. And the only thing that makes anything that we are “good” or “bad” or “better” or “worse” is the belief that we are anything less than exactly who we are meant to be. Right now. No matter where we are.

 

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When we accept that, we can see the truth about going home.

Which is that we can never go home.

We’re already there.

 

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