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cocles beach

 

Many of you may know that I am back in Puerto Viejo, Costa Rica after an incredible month of traveling through Panama and Colombia. My return to this magical jungle town has been a bittersweet reunion. Distance always makes the heart grow fonder, but being back I am reminded of the fine line Puerto Viejo sails between love and hate, heaven and hell.

 

 

How life here can be as nourishing as a mother’s womb, or as empty and cold as a concrete cell.

 

How everyone is accepted, yet every action is scrutinized.

 

Where crossing an unknown path can bring you high up on a mountain, or down low in a ditch.

 

And here, like everywhere, it is a choice.

 

 

I have seen many lost souls, running from something, someone, usually themselves, seek refuge, replacement, in the beauty, the community, the party that is Puerto Viejo.

 

 

Some cure their own cancer, others drink themselves to death.

 

Some find soul mates, others become disillusioned with love.

 

Some become balanced, peaceful, happy, while others tumble in a whirlwind of drama.

 

 

And when I see the negative effects of this town I love, on the people I love, it hurts me.

It hurts me because I know this place can heal.

 

Since my return, friends of mine have surrounded themselves in negativity. Fighting with one another in a way that I view as hurtful, useless, a waste of the precious time that we are afforded on Earth.

 

Some of them simply cannot see how much they are truly hurting each other, and in turn hurting themselves.

 

So today, I am asking them, and I am asking all of you, to send nothing to others, to the atmosphere, to your own soul, but love.

 

And ask yourselves…

 

shoes cocles beach

 

When someone hurts you

do you hurt them back?

 

Do you spend your time

analyzing

gossiping

obsessing

over everything

that makes them

so

much

less

than you?

 

feet in the sand

 

Could it be

that they are human

and they love

and they hurt

just like you do

even

if they did something

that made you

feel so low?

 

ring hand beach

 

Do you want to be

someone

who sees the anger

the threat

the negativity

in a person

and brings them down

or someone

who sees the fear

the insecurity

the humanity

in each of us

and lifts them up?

 

beach coral

 

Do you want to spend your time

your energy

punishing

someone else

for breaking you

when instead

you could be loving yourself back to whole?

 

Because it’s the people who hurt us most

who teach us most.

 

And you are not the one

to teach someone else

the lesson.

You are the one

to learn.

 

shell in hand

 

So look inside.

 

At your thoughts

your feelings

your actions

reactions

 

and learn to soften

 

learn to grow

 

learn to love.

 

beach feet

 

Because life is too beautiful

and too short

for anything else.

 

 


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  1. Anonymous Says: January 14, 2013 at 8:58 am

    Thank you, my dear ‘Cocoa-Butta Girl’. I miss you and love you more than you can imagine, – Aunt Barbara

  2. Thank you for your beautiful post. Its just what I needed to read this morning. Just know that your gift is helping others heal. Please continue to share your lovely thoughts.

  3. This post couldn’t be more relevant for me this morning. Thank you for helping me let go. Soften.

  4. Right on…

  5. so true. i struggle here often.

  6. Shit-Damn u can write!

  7. This is lovely! These are powerful words to carry into the new year.

  8. Thank you for the oh so wise & thoughtful reminder. Love always wins. Peace!

  9. Wow!!!!!!!!!! Your timing frightens me. You always write something that makes me have epiphanies. Thank you, thank you, thank you for writing so beautifully!!!
    BTW, I found you through Canyoustayfordinner and I am so glad I have you two to read :)

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  11. I like this. Today, as a tired mom, I found myself getting frustrated by my young son’s indecision about something. I wasn’t shouting, but I was far from being my best self. I grew frustrated, and found myself saying to him, “you know, the more I think about this, the madder I get.”
    And he said, with the worldly wisdom that all children have and that most of us lose as we age, “then why don’t you stop thinking about it?”.
    And I laughed. And I stopped thinking about it. :)

    • I love your story Lynn. Sometimes the simple answer is the best answer! If you don’t like what you’re thinking, what you’re doing, how you’re feeling, then stop! You might not be able to control the outside world, but you absolutely have the power to decide what happens inside of you. What a wise little one you have :)

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